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The Trouble With Bright Girls

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Successful women know only too well that in any male-dominated profession, we often find ourselves at a distinct disadvantage. We are routinely underestimated, underutilized, and even underpaid. Studies show that women need to perform at extraordinarily high levels, just to appear moderately competent compared to our male co-workers.

But in my experience, smart and talented women rarely realize that one of the toughest hurdles they’ll have to overcome to be successful lies within. We judge our own abilities not only more harshly, but fundamentally differently, than men do. Understanding why we do it is the first step to righting a terrible wrong. And to do that, we need to take a step back in time.

Chances are good that if you are a successful professional today, you were a pretty bright fifth grade girl. My graduate advisor, psychologist Carol Dweck (author of Mindset) conducted a series of studies in the 1980s, looking at how bright girls and boys in the fifth grade handled new, difficult and confusing material.

She found that bright girls, when given something to learn that was particularly foreign or complex, were quick to give up—and the higher the girls’ IQ, the more likely they were to throw in the towel. In fact, the straight-A girls showed the most helpless responses. Bright boys, on the other hand, saw the difficult material as a challenge, and found it energizing. They were more likely to redouble their efforts, rather than give up.

Why does this happen? What makes smart girls more vulnerable, and less confident, when they should be the most confident kids in the room? At the 5th grade level, girls routinely outperform boys in every subject, including math and science. So there were no differences between these boys and girls in ability, nor in past history of success. The only difference was how bright boys and girls interpreted difficulty—what it meant to them when material seemed hard to learn. Bright girls were much quicker to doubt their ability, to lose confidence, and to become less effective learners as a result.

Researchers have uncovered the reason for this difference in how difficulty is interpreted, and it is simply this: more often than not, bright girls believe that their abilities are innate and unchangeable, while bright boys believe that they can develop ability through effort and practice.

How do girls and boys develop these different views? Most likely, it has to do with the kinds of feedback we get from parents and teachers as young children. Girls, who develop self-control earlier and are better able to follow instructions, are often praised for their “goodness.” When we do well in school, we are told that we are “so smart,” “so clever, ” or ” such a good student.” This kind of praise implies that traits like smartness, cleverness, and goodness are qualities you either have or you don’t.

Boys, on the other hand, are a handful. Just trying to get boys to sit still and pay attention is a real challenge for any parent or teacher. As a result, boys are given a lot more feedback that emphasizes effort (e.g., “If you would just pay attention you could learn this,” “If you would just try a little harder you could get it right.”) The net result: When learning something new is truly difficult, girls take it as sign that they aren’t “good” and “smart,” and boys take it as a sign to pay attention and try harder.

We continue to carry these beliefs, often unconsciously, around with us throughout our lives. And because bright girls are particularly likely to see their abilities as innate and unchangeable, they grow up to be women who are far too hard on themselves—women who will prematurely conclude that they don’t have what it takes to succeed in a particular arena, and give up way too soon.

Even if every external disadvantage to a woman’s rising to the top of an organization is removed—every inequality of opportunity, every chauvinistic stereotype, all the challenges we face balancing work and family—we would still have to deal with the fact that through our mistaken beliefs about our abilities, we may be our own worst enemy.

How often have you found yourself avoiding challenges and playing it safe, sticking to goals you knew would be easy for you to reach? Are there things you decided long ago that you could never be good at? Skills you believed you would never possess? If the list is a long one, you were probably one of the bright girls—and your belief that you are “stuck” being exactly as you are has done more to determine the course of your life than you probably ever imagined. Which would be fine, if your abilities were innate and unchangeable. Only they’re not.

No matter the ability—whether it’s intelligence, creativity, self-control, charm, or athleticism—studies show them to be profoundly malleable. When it comes to mastering any skill, your experience, effort, and persistence matter a lot. So if you were a bright girl, it’s time to toss out your (mistaken) belief about how ability works, embrace the fact that you can always improve, and reclaim the confidence to tackle any challenge that you lost so long ago.

This article originally appeared on Psychology Today.

Ask Alexandra Weiss, Associate, iShares Business Strategy at BlackRock, about her experience as a woman in a male-dominated industry.


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Ironically, I just dug up a letter I wrote to my parents in 5th grade explaining my love of math and chemistry, which I later dropped! It's fair to say that I gave up when I stopped getting straight A's in science. I mistakenly viewed those failures as existential, evidence that I was "not as good at" those subjects as I was in others and therefore should stop trying. Now I realize that the single most important lesson we can learn is how to fail, get back up, and keep going.

This definitely describes my experience. And worse, when I wasn't doing well because something was hard, my parents would say things like "Well, you're obviously so smart, so I don't know why you're not getting this." Needless today, it took until I was well into my college years to be able to ask for help if I was having trouble.

Thank you for the insightful article. I do think more often than not women are much harder on themselves for their perceived disabilities in the work place. I think it takes a lot of fortitude to dive in to any challenge even knowing that you may not be the best. While this is not to advocate mediocrity but sometimes it may be the best option to be open to challenges that truly challenge our 'innate' abilities.

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Interesting piece, but it seemed to have forgotten one aspect for women in the workplace and life in general: Men who make mistakes are seen as "experimenting," while women who do the same are seen as "incompetent." I don't think it's so much that women "give up" too easily; it's more that every possible opportunity will be taken away if she messes up or steps out of bounds.

Thank you for sharing this article. I can remember the moment in high school when things (chemistry in particle) stopped being so easy and deciding with certainty that I just couldn't do it, all platitudes aside. I've since gotten over that hurdle for the most part, but I appreciate the article, nonetheless, for explaining this small portion of my teenage angst.

Thank you for posting this! I'm feeling inspired after reading Dr. Halvorson's article. I appreciate her blend of research and practical advice. Navigating a male-dominated industry can definitely be tough, but the idea of changing our internal beliefs about what we are capable of is a strong start.

This reminds me Sheryl Sandberg's TED talk. She has a great story illustrating how girls tend to underestimate themselves and their achievements slightly and boys overestimate theirs.

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