You may have heard of @GlowMaven a popular lifestyle guru who’s Instagram account gives followers daily wellness and self-care inspiration, but do you know the woman behind it? Latham Thomas, a name that those on the path towards motherhood know very well, is the founder of Mama Glow, a maternity lifestyle brand transforming the birth and women’s health movement. Latham’s list of celebrity birth clients include Alicia Keys, DJ Khaled, Rebecca Minkoff and more.
But she’s not only a doula, she is a visible force in the movement towards self-care as a vehicle for empowered leadership. An Oprah-approved wellness guru, named one of Oprah’s Super Soul Teachers on her Super Soul 100 list, Latham is listed amongst fellow change-makers including: Brene Brown, Sophia Bush, Lin Manuel Miranda, Deepak Chopra, and more. Her second book has all of the fixings for a woman on the rise; and we’ve got an exclusive excerpt from her highly anticipated new book, OWN YOUR GLOW: A Soulful Guide to Luminous Living and Crowning The Queen Within. Latham believes that we should become the energy we want to attract and shares how we can attract mentorship.
A mentor’s job is to be a trusted advisor who models positive behavior and is tuned in to your needs, offering advice and support to launch you to the next level. Busy people want to invest in others they believe will yield results. Mentors are cheerleaders; they are there for support, troubleshooting, and confidence building. They are not meant to map out your journey and do the work for you. They are there to enhance your experience, to inspire, to ask you the challenging questions, and be glowing images of aspiration.
I’ve had several informal mentors over the years, mostly people who were in completely different careers but saw my spirit and potential and decided to invest in me. It wasn’t necessary for them to be in my particular professional field. The idea is not to look at what people do, but how they do it. It’s about aligning yourself with a mentor who will guide you to achieving your goals with grace and fortitude—and believe in you.
For those looking for mentors within your industries, find them among the people you know who are 10 steps ahead of you, doing what you want to do, in the way you envision yourself doing it.
You can find great mentors within the circle of people you’re already interacting or working with now. They need to be people to whom you have already demonstrated your potential—who have seen how you think, move, and communicate and who understand the contributions you’re making or have already made. They have to like, trust, and believe in you and feel you’ll put all their input and advice to great use.
Connect with new people whom you know you can help in return and who will find it a mutually rewarding and beneficial experience. It needs to feel good to support you. Are you somebody you yourself would like to mentor? Are you open, flexible, resilient, respectful, and unstoppable? Are you eager to learn and committed to pivoting in your interactions so you can become your best self and have more success, rewards, and happiness?
Networking is about identifying people we’d love to connect with who excite and inspire us, reaching out to offer our help through our connections and know-how, and keeping the giving coming. Acquiring a mentor should be about taking your time and watering the garden for the relationship to flourish. Then we get.
Glow Tips for Attracting and Honoring Empowered Mentorship
Be all that you can be. While this sounds obvious, it is the most important thing you can do to get noticed. Be great at what you do.
Seek more responsibility in your position. Be sure to have specific ideas for how you can contribute in deeper, more expansive ways. Be creative and think outside the box.
Don’t be shy. Participate in all meetings, even “optional” ones. Volunteer to represent your team on important department- or enterprise-level initiatives. Share your ideas. Pre- pare ahead of time so that you can meaningfully advance the discussion.
Promote the success of those around you. Your generosity and openness are critical to your personal success.
Build your network. Reach out to community groups both within your company and outside your line of business, including communities like Levo, Rising Tide Society, Career Contessa, General Assembly, OKREAL, and Create & Cultivate. Learn what they do and how you can help them succeed and what you can learn and bring to the conversation.
Ask yourself what you want in a mentor. Is it an expert who can help with a specific challenge—asking for a raise, transitioning to a new career, improving your image and personal style? Do you want someone inside your workplace, someone who has the inside track to be an advocate for your project or promotion? Or do you want someone outside the workspace who can act as a more general sounding board and big-picture guide?
Put yourself in a potential mentor’s shoes. If the tables were turned, what would you want to see from this individual asking for help? If you were inundated with requests for guidance every day, what type of person would you choose to assist, and why? Become the person that others would love to support and nurture.
The fortune is in the follow-up. Don’t let your contacts lie dormant. A business card should be more than a piece of paper whose life cycle ends in the bottom of your purse. It’s a calling card to opportunity, a seed of potential for connection. Take five business cards in your possession right now and reach out to those contacts. How can you deepen those relationships?
Accelerator programs. Accelerator programs are fixed- term, cohort–based, and include mentorship and educational opportunities under the guidance of one or more mentors and advisors. They range in intensity and can be free of charge or can cost the mentee. If you are really keen on working with a particular person, ask if he or she offers coaching or an accelerator program.
Bring out the fun in mentoring you! When making your ask, consider how it comes across. You don’t want to make it sound like work. Exude excitement and smiles. Mentorship is an invigorating opportunity for both parties, and when done properly, it often blooms into a friendship. Once you’ve acquired a mentor, find ways to meet regularly with purpose, even without an urgent agenda. Nurture the relationship year-round. Send nice handwritten notes or a gift. Let them know they are appreciated for their friendship as much as for their help.
Show your mentor how to help you. Even after some- one’s decided they want to help you, most won’t know where to start. Make a specific request when you want someone to speak up on your behalf. Don’t flounder or beat around the bush. They’ll appreciate the guidance and perspective.
Honor your mentor. Show your gratitude for the invaluable support. Where it’s possible to reciprocate, become a source of service. Do you have some information and support that may be valuable to your mentor? Share it. When you have tickets to an event someone might enjoy, invite them. Don’t just think about mentors when you need something. Keep them at the front of your mind, and you will distinguish yourself and remain at the top of their list as well.
Latham Thomas, aka Glow Maven is a celebrity wellness/ lifestyle maven and birth doula- transforming not only how women give birth to their babies, but how they give rise to the best version of themselves. Named one of Oprah Winfrey’s Super Soul 100 - a enlightened group of leaders elevating humanity with their work- Latham is helping women embrace optimal wellness and spiritual growth as a pathway to owning their power. She is the founder of Mama Glow (MamaGlow.com) a lifestyle brand and highly regarded website offering inspiration, education, and holistic services for expectant and new mamas. A graduate of Columbia University and The Institute for Integrative Nutrition, Latham serves on the TUFTS University Nutrition Council. Latham is best-selling author of “Mama Glow: A Hip Guide to Your Fabulous Abundant Pregnancy,” a go-to wellness guide for expecting mothers endorsed by Dr. Christiane Northrup, Dr Mark Hyman, Christy Turlington Burns & more.
Latham’s highly anticipated secondbook, "Own Your Glow: A Soulful Guide to Luminous Living And Crowning The Queen Within” debuts September of 2017, Hay House. Having cultivated her wellness practice over nearly a decade she has served as a doula and lifestyle guru for celebrity clients including: Alicia Keys, Debra Lee, Rebecca Minkoff, Tamera Mowry, DJ Khaled, Venus and Serena Williams and more. Latham's leading a revolution in radical self-care teaching women everywhere to “mother themselves first”. She was named one of the “Top 100 Women To Watch In Wellness” by Mind Body Green and has been featured in Fast Company, Wall Street Journal Magazine, FORBES, SELF, Essence and more. Latham has graced the covers of New York Family Magazine, Experience Life, La Fashionista Compassionista, Heart and Soul and has a few more exciting covers coming this fall. She is the proud mother of 14 year old DJ prodigy and entrepreneur, DJ Fulano.