I keep watching this clip of Oprah Winfrey being interviewed by the late Mike Wallace in 1986, just two months after The Oprah Show first aired nationally. Born into poverty in rural Mississippi, she's become one of the most influential people in the world. In 2017 her net worth is 3.1 billion. In the interview she shares the key to her success: "I am where I am because I always believed I could get here."
Her self-assuredness is so striking it's bordering on audaciousness. And her insecurities—she jokes about her weight fluctuations—haven't negatively impacted her strong sense of her own value. I keep playing the video over and over because Winfrey's autonomy and self-confidence in this interview are such a departure from most of the conversations I have with women. More often than not, we are riddled with confusion and self-doubt.
These days I spend most of my time coaching women to change the stories we tell about ourselves and to shift our self-perception. There are a lot of things I'm grateful for this season. My all-in partner, Kojo, and my kids have been my biggest cheerleaders this year as I released #droptheball into the world. Our apartment rent hasn't increased in eleven years. I have my health and a stockpile of my most life-altering products, LUSH bath bombs and the Paul Mitchell foaming pomade I use to twist my hair. I have friends who love me unconditionally and hold me accountable.
But after watching this video, what I'm most grateful for right now is that I've finally arrived at believing in myself. It's been a long journey, but one well worth the travel. Now I've just got to be like Oprah...and figure out how to take it to the bank.