Lately, I have realized that a lot of us are succumbing to the trap of waiting. This is particularly frequent among those who prefer to go with the flow and take life one step at a time. We take a methodical and contemplative approach to decision-making, particularly when it comes to life-altering choices. We refuse to be rash or hasty in these matters; instead, we choose prudence and thoughtfulness every time. Is our unenthusiastic approach to life possibly hindering us from achieving the things we desire? We often have a burning ambition for transformation in our lives, like attaining a better job or more money, commencing an enterprise, taking classes, and getting clients… yet months and even years down the line we’re still facing that same issue.
What is the cause of this?
Goals We Never Met
Way back when I recall being told why I hadn’t yet achieved what I desired: It was all due to my lack of commitment. Being stuck in limbo and “trying to figure it out” instead of taking charge and going after my goal had become a habit. Additionally, even whenever initiative did kick in more often than not the level of dedication would ebb away quickly until familiar patterns reemerged. Does this sound like something you can relate to?
As another year commences, many of us have established new objectives, set intentions, and made promises to ourselves. Despite our earnest motives for transformation, startlingly few people (only 8%) will effectively accomplish their goals by this time next year. Therefore it is essential that we take meaningful action now in order to make lasting change happen.
What could be the potential cause of this situation?
Fighting Change by Waiting
We often dread transformation; deep inside, we are scared that once we take action and strive for what it is that we desire, our dreams could actually be realized. As human beings, when something shakes up our regularity or environment of familiarity – the thought of stepping outside this comfort zone leaves us uncomfortable and at risk.
We frequently forgo taking action and instead enter the waiting game, which is a type of passivity that keeps us stagnant and inactive in our comfort zones. This fear-driven inclination to wait rather than act can be detrimental if we don’t take steps toward change soon.
Waiting can show up as:
Procrastination can be sly in taking away our contentment, joy, and success. It often masks itself so it is hard to detect. Beth Grant expertly phrased the Passive Yes to refer to when we stay in a holding pattern. This is where you give off an impression of taking action but are not completely committed yet. A classic example would be when someone expresses their desire to build new expertise, enrolls in an educational program or workshop, yet neglects to attend and complete the activities. By making excuses about having insufficient funds or time, aspiring professionals can often easily become ensnared in activities that take away from the pursuit of their goals. We are adept at convincing ourselves that these endeavors are essential or critical when, in reality, they simply act as barriers to our aspirations.
This mental ploy can keep us endlessly anticipating and yearning. We search for solutions and supporting evidence, but become overwhelmed with all the potential outcomes before ever making a choice or doing something about it.
So, what should you do as an alternative?
Steps to Take to Escape Waiting
It is essential to recognize that procrastination and indecision are simply manifestations of fear. Acknowledging this can help when you find yourself in the midst of Waiting. Take a moment to reflect and identify the underlying cause of your fear – it could be that you’re letting this trepidation dictate what decisions you make in life.
Acknowledge the fear inside you, and try to realize its source. The horror we experience most in life usually never happens as we consider it would. Even if an implausible nightmare comes true, it may still teach us invaluable lessons along the way.
Once you come to this realization, take a moment to reflect on the following thoughts:
- What if you remained stuck, immobilized, and in limbo while waiting for something to shift?
- What if a year from now, you’re still in the same place? How does that make you feel?
- Are you brave enough to take a chance and keep pushing yourself further, with the potential reward of success?
Find yourself a partner that will both encourage and challenge you in your endeavors. Someone who won’t let you feel defeated, but also keep pushing you to take consistent action toward achieving success.
Taking action is paramount, yet it’s essential to make sure the decision you’re making pushes you out of your comfort zone in some capacity. It doesn’t have to be a drastic step that leaves you completely unnerved—just something which gives a hint of unease or discomfort. If it does, consider that as a sign that the choice will help foster self-development and growth in ways unimaginable before!
Are you ready to take the plunge and move away from merely waiting? The time is now!
This piece was initially released by Live in the Grey and has been shared with our readers.
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