If you’re anything like me, then college was a time of exploring many things about yourself and those around you, but often times those things certainly did not include faith. I tried freshman year, but the temptation to involve myself in other activities spanning the continuum from being a tour guide, dancing in the annual Filipino American Student Association show, and experiencing a plethora of fraternity parties quickly got in the way.

I’m Baptist and I probably went to church a handful of times in the four years I was away at college. Of course, I always filled the motherly mandate of attending my home church while on break, but those instances never moved me to add that weekly event to my overly programmed Vera Bradley planner. I never prioritized time to feed that part of myself.  The thing was, my beliefs never changed, but the way I lived them — or rather — didn’t live them, certainly took a turn from the ages of 18-24.

I didn’t reconnect with my faith until I was around 25 years old. I was in my first post-graduate position and there was something greatly missing from my life. I was also pretty lonely as I took a job in a city in which I didn’t know a single soul. It dawned upon me that maybe I needed to invest in what had become a dormancy in my life. What I didn’t know is that opening that door led me a to a place that has filled a large gap in my life for the past four years.

If you’re in the same boat, don’t be discouraged or intimated to reconvene your relationship with your faith. If what you were introduced to as a child isn’t working for you anymore, take the adventure to find what you do believe in at this point in your life.

A Few Tips

Reconnect with your faith

1. This might sound a bit inappropriate in this context, but “date around.”  Try out different places of worship and find the right doctrine and style for you. Visit a place more than once. I found a great deal of freedom to explore my options without familial pressure.

2. If you seek to keep with the faith in which you grew up ask your home place of worship for some suggestions of places to visit or faith leaders to contact in your area.

3. Ask your co-workers where they worship and, if you feel comfortable, inquire to see if they’d be willing to let you tag along for a visit. If you do go alone, I have found that people are very friendly and welcoming of newcomers. In smaller venues, people can easily spot a visitor, which may lead to intentional outreach to make sure that you feel comfortable and to provide you with more information.

4. See your place of worship as a place of involvement and not just a place that you “go to.” I joined a small group and went from knowing no one to having a small faith-based family. I’m all about smiling at people and making them feel comfortable so I also became a greeter, which was another outlet to serve and connect with others. Look for opportunities to do community service and other types of ministry. Some places of worship will have affinity groups for young adults or women.

If you happen to be single and it is important to you that your partner share your same beliefs then this is also a perfect way for you to mingle and perhaps make more than just a friend. The more relationships you build, the more likely you are to stay engaged.

5. Read and do your research. No matter if you’re going back to the faith in which you grew up or if you are seeking a new affiliation, make sure that you read texts to help you become informed. Even better, network with people who are a part of this faith and listen to their story. This can help you understand how people engage in practical applications of what they learn and believe.

6. Explore rituals or practices that symbolize reconnection. For me, it was important to get baptized again on my own terms since my six-year-old self didn’t really have a say in the matter. Explore what that might look like for you and the steps you will need to take in order to make that happen. For those transitioning from one faith to another, you might look into a conversion process while others might be looking into a joining process of an entirely new religion.

8. Don’t be afraid to start again. So, you might fall off the wagon and other things might get in the way as you are kick-starting your professional life, but that’s okay. You’ll figure it out and stop and start your journey as you see fit. Trust the process.

Through reconnecting with my faith, I have gained a social network, meaningful involvement opportunities in the community in which I live and work, and most importantly, I feel like I have reclaimed a piece of me that I can turn to on a regular basis to bring me stability and a sense of calm in my over programmed and chaotic everyday life. My mother always told me that I would find my faith when I needed it most and as usual, she was right.

Enjoy the journey!

Did you feel disconnected from your faith during college? Tell us about it in the comments.