Interviewing is one of those tense, palm-sweating, heart-stopping experiences that can make going to the dentist seem like fun. It’s full of pitfalls: What if they don’t like me? What if I don’t know the answer to a question? What if they challenge my answers? What should I do if they’re rude or ask me inappropriate questions?

So, yes, you should be nervous. But now you’ve got to get smart about how to prepare for interviews and have a strategy for getting through the unexpected. (Click here to Tweet this idea.)

Study up and try to expect the unexpected

My new book, The Essential Job Interview Handbook, starts with these preparation tips:

  • Research the organization or company carefully and go beyond what you find on their website.
  • Create a chart or map where you list the job requirements on one side, and put key words to remind yourself of how you match them on the other side.
  • Add your list of questions for the interviewer at the bottom of your map. You never want to miss an opportunity to ask questions; it’s a key tactic to prove you’re interested in a company. (And bring this map with you to the interview — it’s fine to have a “cheat sheet.”)

So, that’s good, but you’re still a wreck. You’re afraid your nerves will undermine your chances of getting the job. What can you do to make sure you don’t bomb the interview?

Focus on being your real self

Try to think of your nervousness as energy. Learn how to use it up or burn through it so it won’t hurt you. Get off to a strong start by dressing appropriately. Make sure your grooming is perfect, and greet the interviewer with a smile and a firm handshake.

Sit on the front two-thirds of your chair with good posture: shoulders back, your hands on the desk or table in front of you (if there is one) or resting on your thighs. Put energy into your voice; this will make you interesting to listen to since you won’t be mumbling. Good volume and inflection will make your ideas come alive.

Lastly, learn how to gesture to emphasize key points. Let’s say you helped with a large project as an intern; show “large” by moving your hands away from each other. If you reduced expenses, lower your hands. We do this naturally, but under the intense pressure of an interview, we tend to forget.

These tips will help you show the interviewer who you are. Be yourself — your best self — and if that’s not who they want, that’s OK. None of us is right for every job.

If you’re a go-getter, let them see that. If you’re quiet, make sure you share how you’ve been effective — quiet people are often excellent listeners. If you’re good at motivating others, show them through your facial expressions, voice and gestures just how you do that.

Interviewing is the gateway to getting a job. Learn how to do it well so they can see who you are and why you’d be a great addition to their team.

Jean Baur is the author of The Essential Job Interview Handbook.

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